Venus and Valentines Day: What’s your love language?
Every year on Valentines Day, people across the world declare their unwavering love for each other in ceremonial acts of love and kindness. Unless you’re British. If you’re British, it’s an awkwardly inconvenient day full of adverts and sickly films on TV. Just me? Well… clearly THAT doesn’t speak to my love language.
In the name of self awareness, I thought it might be fun this year to talk love languages through the lens of our good old Astrological friend, Venus. Venus is the queen of the seas, rising from a clam shell in the middle of the ocean, she’s beautiful, easeful and oh so open to receive - flowers, food, compliments. Venus wants to be adorned. But how? Well. Everyone is different. So, here are 3 ways you might want to break the ice with your Valentine this year and use the whole day to get to know each others love language through the lens of Human Design and Astrology.
Venus in the zodiacs - lines of fun!
Run your chart for free here and make a note of the zodiac sign that Venus sits in.
Then, have a look at the list below and be curious. How does that sing to you? And if you’re doing it with a partner, what can you learn about each other in this process? Remember… this is a little fun to start with!
Venus in Aries - it’s time for red hot spicy passion. Traditional love language: touch.
Venus in Taurus - feed me grapes while I chaise longue please. Traditional love language: gifts.
Venus in Gemini - dirty talk please! Traditional love language: words of affirmation.
Venus in Cancer - did someone order a nurse!? Traditional love language: acts of service.
Venus in Leo - let’s play! Traditional love language: touch.
Venus in Virgo - Listening is my love language. Traditional love language: acts of service.
Venus in Libra - sucker for a gift. Traditional love language: gifts.
Venus in Scorpio - remember your safe word… Traditional love language: touch.
Venus in Sagittarius - taking it to new heights and new adventures. Traditional love language: quality time.
Venus in Capricorn - it’s all about the stamina, let’s slow it down and take our time. Traditional love language: quality time.
Venus in Aquarius - the more the merrier. Traditional love language: touch.
Venus in Pisces - when two become one. Traditional love language: touch.
2. Venus in the Bodygraph
Where does Venus sit in the bodygraph? Just look at the right hand side column. For example, my Venus is in gate 40, so it sits in the heart. My love language in the bodygraph represents commitment and willpower. I need a partner who is not just committed, but who has the sticking power to work through things and grow with me. Have a look where your Venus sits by running your chart here. Then look at the notes below and compare.
Venus in the root centre - I need stability and consistency from my partner.
Venus in the solar plexus - I need emotional engagement and deep conversations from my partner.
Venus in the spleen - I need safety from my partner.
Venus in the sacral - I need excitement and spontaneity from my partner.
Venus in the willpower centre - I need commitment, willpower and motivation from my partner to help me grow.
Venus in the G centre - I need strength and direction from my partner.
Venus in the throat - I need conversation and openess from my partner.
Venus in the third eye - I need I need mental stimulation and debate from my partner.
Venus in the head - I need inspiration from my partner.
3. Swap charts and learn about each other
In a hetrosexual relationship, the Mars represents what a woman is looking for in a man, and the Venus represents what a man is looking for in a woman. So swap charts. When you look at your partners chart, what do you see about the Venus/Mars?
If you’re not in a hetrosexual relationship, explore both the Mars and Venus together and embrace the experimental nature!
Venus/Mars in Aries - this person is looking for spontinuity and passion in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Taurus - this person is looking for material stability, luxury and beautiful experiences together in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Gemini - this person needs conversational and mental stimulation in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Cancer - this person needs to feel cared for and loved in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Leo - this person wants fun experiences and confidence from their partner in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Virgo - this person wants stability, reliability and dependability in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Libra - this person wants peace, harmony and equal partnerships in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Scorpio - this person wants spice, kink and depth in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Sagittarius - this person wants adventure and travel as part of their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Capricorn - this person wants commitment in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Aquarius - this person wants spontaneity and unpredictability in their relationship.
Venus/Mars in Pisces - this person wants emotional connection above all else in their relationship.
These are obviously a starting point. If you want to learn more about each other, why not grab the Astrology Insight readings for £10? A little gift of self exploration for yourself, and each other. Enjoy experimenting this Valentines Day and learning more about yourself and you partner!
